Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
This is a fun video highlighting the importance of both types of personalities.
A couple of you mentioned wanting to know more about the book, Quiet, so I wanted to talk about it a little bit. It is a big book packed with lots of good information. If you are at all interested in the subject I highly would recommend it to you, even if you only read the chapters that have the most interest to you and skim through the rest.
Susan Cain has done a lot of research, interviews and even subjected herself to conferences (horrible sounding ones for an introvert) all of which is very interesting reading. She discusses the science of personality, sub groups like high sensitivity and reward sensitivity, and she even discusses the extrovert a great deal.
All these personality traits have implications on the work place, the school room, the church and the family, all of which she addresses. A lot of it I think is very interesting and useful.
The conversation at book club, which is made up of interverts of varying degrees, was lively with tales of revelation more than new information.
* Often the ideas that are implemented are the ones shared by the loudest person, but often, if you take time to let the quiet people talk (and this does take some patience) even better ideas will come to light.
* Solitude is the key to creativity. Excessive stimulation impedes learning. Let's say two people go for a walk. One goes for a stroll through a busy city street and the other walks through the quiet woods. Upon returning they both go study. Guess who has an easier time of learning?
I appreciate how this book reminded me how differently God made each and everyone of us, how we are not easily all lumped into one group or another, how we need each other, and how it would be utterly boring if we were all alike.
The book provoked thoughts about what my gifts and talents are, and it has made me look at those around me with new eyes, and appreciate their differences. I think it I am a better encourager having read this book.
The book has also been a great conversation starter with friends, family, and even people I barely know. I've talked about different things in it to various people, not in an effort to get them to read the book, but just talking about whatever it is that pops into my mind, because talking about ideas is much more appealing to me than small talk, an introverted trait. (Writing is a little different for me. I would rather TALK about ideas than write about them.)
Here is a quote from near the end of the book that I liked and wanted to share with you:
"Love is essential; gregariousness is optional. Cherish your nearest and dearest. Work with colleagues you like and respect. Scan new acquaintances for those who might fall in the former categories or whose company you enjoy for its own sake. And don't worry about socializing with everyone else. Relationships make everyone happier, introverts included, but think quality over quantity.
The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting. For some it's a Broadway spotlight; for others, a lamp lit desk. Use your natural powers -- of persistence, concentration, insight, and sensitivity--to do work you love and work that matters. Solve problems, make art. think deeply.
Figure out what you are meant to contribute to the world and make sure you contribute it."
Susan Cain is on Facebook and if you "like" her you get to see interesting articles she links which I have enjoyed reading. It would be great if our culture valued the introvert a little more. I am working on it in the spheres of life where I have influence.
If you decide to read it let me know what you think.
And tell me, because I am curious to know, do you consider yourself an introvert or extrovert?